PROCESS TO DEVELOP A GOOD HUMAN BEING BY PROF DR MUHAYA MUHAMMAD

1. The happiest people do not have the best of everything but they simply make the best of everything. Live simply, speak kindly, care deeply and love generously

2.      Our thoughts are the seeds we plant in our garden of mind. So choose our thoughts today and decide our emotion and action and subsequently perception and quality of life. We see what we believe not believe what we see. Today stop blaming complaining and taking shame for our mistakes. Instead learn from the negative events

3.      Financial freedom is such a buzz word now. It is something people are going for. Many are looking in direction of making more money. It has nothing to do with how much money we have or how much money we make. It is what we have inside us. Some people who make little can be happy and people who make tonnes of money are stressed. People who are contented with what they have do not have all the money in the world but they have financial freedom. MAny people who have lots of money but stressed.Financial freedom is an attitude to money not the amount. These are the attitudes for financial freedom

a.       Do not worry about money, we say if I have more money I will not be worried. So choose not to worry- worry is a bad use of imagination. we begin to imagine a situation that may not happen. Decide to take action over finances. Imagine a life of abundance.

b.      I can be happy regardless of my financial state. Do not make money be a condition for happiness. It is not the money that make you happy. It is the relationship with people and how we handle ourself that make us happy.

c.       Money is a mean to an end not the end itself. Just set a goal how much money we give away to make a difference. Money is a tool to build a house, money is the means not the end. Have a purpose for spending money. If money is the end it will never be enough.

d.      Say I am free- understand that we are free to earn. Do not feel guilty to earn money.

e.       Say I am free to save. Leave money to people.

f.       Say I am free to give money away.

g.      I am free to spend. spend on ourself and others . be free to make choices. Earn all you can, save all you can and give all you can. when we have all three we are balanced and in financial freedom. Debt is the primary freedom killer. Chris Widener

4.      Although social networking sites & apps such as Facebook, Twitter etc are responsible for much irresponsibility and damage, casting people into loss, regret and darkness, I am quite convinced that we can all make ourselves responsible users of the same networks encouraging responsibility and building solid foundations, instilling high morals, removing people from darkness, showing them the light and how easy it is to tread upon the path of no regret, gaining as much as possible on their fingertips! It has never been easier to access people "sans frontiers" than this, so are we going to make use of it to create a positive impact or wait for others to do the opposite and cry when it is too late?  Anyone engaged in any form of beneficial activity should be supported in it, even if it be just morally. Perhaps our own children may be saved through the effort of those whom we thought negatively about. Neither underestimate the impact of technology upon the masses nor your own impact upon others.

5.      "Arrogance & pride is when one rejects the truth and despises people." The Messenger makes it clear that wearing the best of clothing, living in the best of homes, using the best of vehicles etc does NOT mean that one is proud or arrogant. However, when one denies the truth & belittles others thinking he is above the law & others are inferior then such. If a person cheats on their spouse, they would probably one day cheat on the one they cheated on their spouse with! So as much as we should not cheat on our spouses, we should never trust those who have got to us through cheating on their spouses no matter how much they promise. The same promises were made to others before us.Never break a home to make a home as your shall be broken one day by another wanting to make it. Be pure, be honest, be clean, be content, be responsible, be transparent and enjoy a stress free life.

6.      People can only be jealous of those who are gifted or blessed in some way so be thankful that you are blessed. Be concerned when nobody is jealous of you because you can do much better. They say stones are thrown only at trees with fruit! A simple smile can break barriers, prevent misunderstandings, ease tensions, create friendship, improve mental, physical, emotional & spiritual well-being, improve social conditions, give a feeling of sincerity & care and lead to much more goodness. Hence a smile is declared a highly recommended act of worship. Keep your face illuminated with a constant smile & see how your life changes! When our main aim in life is our food, clothing, make-up, cars, phones, money, holidays, parties, hairstyles and living up to the latest trends, then spirituality usually takes a back seat and we begin to head in the direction of regret in the hereafter.  It gets to a stage where we become totally enslaved by such items and the Almighty becomes a ceremonial figure in our lives with religion too being transformed into a mere ritual.

7.      When pleasing our Maker takes the center-stage in our lives , then everything else becomes secondary and the sweetness of contentment with our share settles in. We begin to realise the only opportunity we have to prepare for the hereafter is whilst we are alive. The glamorous world fades as we see how it has swallowed so many who are firmly in it's clutches. So much time is wasted on that which really does not matter at all. Nothing can ever bring us more joy than the Pleasure of the Almighty upon us. May He help us focus on the right path and tread upon it at all times. Aameen

8.      Spending maximum time with one's wife and children solves many problems and protects us and them from much evil. It is an act of worship to do so. The Messenger pbuh says to gain saviour, find your home spacious - meaning, don't leave your home unnecessarily but rather, spend that time with those who deserve it most - your immediate family.

9.      Addiction is not confined to alcohol and drugs but to any sin and much more.  People can be addicted to lies, gossip, backbiting, cheating, jealousy, pride, clubs, pornography, adultery, unlawful earnings, extravagance, showing off, abuse of trust, wasting time, mobile phones, internet & much more! 

10.  Fighting any addiction requires us to admit it firstly & seek help or even rehabilitation. Repentance and building our link with the Almighty is prime in combating addiction. Sadly many of us prefer to live in denial.

11.  No self pity party but self improvement and learning continuously

12.  Decide, believe, act, and expect to achieve our goal. with belief come action with action come more belief. Expectation loads the gun and action bring it to us- John Canary. Most people lose out because of a failure to act.